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Ian_Gere
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Well, there's an age old and important social mechanism at work here: a young buck has announced his presence and staked his claim to respect from the adult community. It's also true that embarrassment is an emotional response which appears to have no evolutionary purpose other than enforcing group conformity, which, for me and many of us I suspect, immediately feels like something to be approached with caution...
I mention the anthropology simply so that you Adam, and everyone else, understands that I have no particular malice in mind when I say that I too find this hilarious. Are you sure that you're "not like most guys", Adam? I mean, is it the idea of caressing her light bruises, or just talking about it which you object to?
Personally I'm with Chippins on the gift front, but if she's still around come summer, that's different. In that case, get an MTP shirt, not UBACS - an old skool buttoned shirt, nor MultiCam, and take it to a seamstress as the material from which to make a bikini. This is a win on 3 fronts:
1) it lets her know indubitably that you are not just a red blooded heterosexual male with a keen interest in seeing her almost naked, but a young man who is prepared to do something about it (trust me on this, so long as the former is welcome attention, the latter is a particularly attractive quality in males)
2) it tells her that you are not the jealous type but rather you trust her and are secure in the relationship, so you don't care who else sees her almost naked
3) have the seamstress include interior pockets in the bra cups for neoprene chicken fillets - this will let her know that you care!
I mention the anthropology simply so that you Adam, and everyone else, understands that I have no particular malice in mind when I say that I too find this hilarious. Are you sure that you're "not like most guys", Adam? I mean, is it the idea of caressing her light bruises, or just talking about it which you object to?
Personally I'm with Chippins on the gift front, but if she's still around come summer, that's different. In that case, get an MTP shirt, not UBACS - an old skool buttoned shirt, nor MultiCam, and take it to a seamstress as the material from which to make a bikini. This is a win on 3 fronts:
1) it lets her know indubitably that you are not just a red blooded heterosexual male with a keen interest in seeing her almost naked, but a young man who is prepared to do something about it (trust me on this, so long as the former is welcome attention, the latter is a particularly attractive quality in males)
2) it tells her that you are not the jealous type but rather you trust her and are secure in the relationship, so you don't care who else sees her almost naked
3) have the seamstress include interior pockets in the bra cups for neoprene chicken fillets - this will let her know that you care!
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i dont see many females playing this sport. i think its about 10:1 ratio.. last game i went to one woman was actually pretty good.. the other was enthusiastic but a bit of a tactical elephant.. we would be sneaking round trying to flank the enemy and she'd charge through giving us away.. we tried using this to our advantage by sending her and some other newish players towards the enemy creating a distraction so my squad could move in.. she decided she wanted to run straight towards us and we had to shoo her away..
you must teach your girlfriend the ways of the warrior.
you must teach your girlfriend the ways of the warrior.
I mention the anthropology simply so that you Adam, and everyone else, understands that I have no particular malice in mind when I say that I too find this hilarious. Are you sure that you're "not like most guys", Adam? I mean, is it the idea of caressing her light bruises, or just talking about it which you object to?
^ This. Don't kid yourself lad.
^ This. Don't kid yourself lad.
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This is just my 2p and if it offends.....tuff!
Adam tell her everything about yourself and what you enjoy, dislike etc etc. Take her airsofting as thats something you clearly enjoy. If she likes it great if not no harm done.
If she decides not to be in a relationship with you based on the fact you go airsofting then good ridden to her! Same goes for the sad young lady that wont talk to your due to cadets. You do seem young in your ideas on relationships and this being the only one you will ever have. My honest first thought when reading your early comments was "seriously?? real world will be a shock!"
Your young, so have fun and don't let ANYONE dictate what you do or enjoy in life.
But back on the main topic.......take her along see if she likes it. I would advise against buying her anything expensive or airsoft related until she has been LOTS.
Adam tell her everything about yourself and what you enjoy, dislike etc etc. Take her airsofting as thats something you clearly enjoy. If she likes it great if not no harm done.
If she decides not to be in a relationship with you based on the fact you go airsofting then good ridden to her! Same goes for the sad young lady that wont talk to your due to cadets. You do seem young in your ideas on relationships and this being the only one you will ever have. My honest first thought when reading your early comments was "seriously?? real world will be a shock!"
Your young, so have fun and don't let ANYONE dictate what you do or enjoy in life.
But back on the main topic.......take her along see if she likes it. I would advise against buying her anything expensive or airsoft related until she has been LOTS.
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adam bussey
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ok thanks
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I've suggested to my GF of almost 7 years that she might enjoy airsoft and while she seems to like the idea its been almost 6 months since I suggested and she still hasn't come along to a single game day.
I've thought about buying a gun "for her use" but really it would be an excuse to get something small that could be my sniper backup. Like an MP5 as she complained that my ICS L85 would be too heavy for her. As for buying her something as a present, I wouldn't consider it, ever. Its not a very romantic gesture, "Here babe have a plastic chucking replica doesn't it just scream I love you". Nutster is lucky, one of only 2 people I know of in airsoft who's other halves love it almost as much as they do.
I've thought about buying a gun "for her use" but really it would be an excuse to get something small that could be my sniper backup. Like an MP5 as she complained that my ICS L85 would be too heavy for her. As for buying her something as a present, I wouldn't consider it, ever. Its not a very romantic gesture, "Here babe have a plastic chucking replica doesn't it just scream I love you". Nutster is lucky, one of only 2 people I know of in airsoft who's other halves love it almost as much as they do.
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I could see this coming because this thread was theoretical I got dumped after the 2nd date oh well back to being mopy
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If your still dating you can't get dumped mate!
And Don't Mope just move on go out with buddie's and have a good time don't feel you have to stop smiling if you see her (but don't look at her and start smiling after you've seen her it's just confusing and I CBA explaining how to turn it in your favour) the more she see's you smiling and laughing like it dosen't bother you she'll want you more and so will other girl's around her!
It's tried, tested and Proven (especially with my personal Trainee's!)
And Don't Mope just move on go out with buddie's and have a good time don't feel you have to stop smiling if you see her (but don't look at her and start smiling after you've seen her it's just confusing and I CBA explaining how to turn it in your favour) the more she see's you smiling and laughing like it dosen't bother you she'll want you more and so will other girl's around her!
It's tried, tested and Proven (especially with my personal Trainee's!)
adam bussey
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never mind if some one could please close the thread please do.
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Couldn't agree more! After I got dumped I did the whole stiff upper lip thing and acted like nothing happened and the result was my Ex looked far more depressed then I did and was complaining to her friends how I didn't look sad about it
Safe to say I won that bit
Anyway here's some country to get you through the hardship
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Ian_Gere
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Ahhhh...
The truth is that nobody can win the human race, but letting people live in your head rent free is a weight that will definitely slow you down and for no profit.
I advise you try your best to involve yourself in activities with your mates and if you do see her, allow whatever you feel to be visible. I fully realise that this is not the done thing, but I promise you that there are far reaching, always bad, and often terrible, consequences to pretending we're unaffected when really we're hurt. You know all that overaggressive macho-man wife beating arseholery? It all starts somewhere...
...my heart genuinely goes out to you. Never mind all the stiff upper lip bollox, or trying to make her feel worse than you, or winning, etc.
The truth is that nobody can win the human race, but letting people live in your head rent free is a weight that will definitely slow you down and for no profit.
I advise you try your best to involve yourself in activities with your mates and if you do see her, allow whatever you feel to be visible. I fully realise that this is not the done thing, but I promise you that there are far reaching, always bad, and often terrible, consequences to pretending we're unaffected when really we're hurt. You know all that overaggressive macho-man wife beating arseholery? It all starts somewhere...
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Well that escalated quickly!
First I was just making sure I acted as if it didn't get to me to try and save face and then I'm beating women :/
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Nobody goes to bed a perfectly happy, healthy, sane person and wakes up thinking, "Today, for no apparent reason, I'm going to behave like a total dick and beat my wife!"
Everything has to start somewhere. Trust me on this, everything from wife beating and road rage to drug/alcohol addiction and eating disorders has its roots in repressing emotion.
Everything has to start somewhere. Trust me on this, everything from wife beating and road rage to drug/alcohol addiction and eating disorders has its roots in repressing emotion.
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And their are Other External factor's not just Repressing Emotion's so you can't mention only that and Decree it to be all and Imperical I can see your Logic but it's also Mislead logic.
Some other's are upbringing, social status, Money and a plethora of other thing's.
Some other's are upbringing, social status, Money and a plethora of other thing's.
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? if you are calling me dim would you kindly shove off
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Indeed there are many other factors involved in all the unhelpful behaviours I listed, however, common to them all is a mindset characterised by repressed emotion. I believe that the manner in which I express myself, when I choose to be deadly serious, ought in and of itself demonstrate that I am at least erudite and intelligent, though of course not by those qualifications correct (lol I am not committing the sin of actually departing from sound logic by arguing from assumed authority). However, taking vocabulary and grammar at face value, it really is somewhat amusing that the assumption was made that I was in fact claiming that something so complex as problematic human behaviour has but a single cause, whatever that may be, and to use the word "logic" sarcastically is absolutely hilarious!
By all means ignore what I have to say. According to clinical research by a wide ranging variety of psych researchers, around 85% of adults in the USA (and John Bradshaw, an eminent practitioner, author and researcher, believes that more like 90% in Europe) are dysfunctional emotionally to a degree which negatively impacts on their lives and those around them. Thus it is 'normal' to be a bit nuts, in layman's terms - but not "a bit nuts" as in "I like to party and go off the deep end a bit", more like "a bit nuts" as in "even though I hate bullies, when I'm pissed off I treat anyone who cannot complain, or loved ones whom I subconsciously know will not complain much, harshly."
The problem then is that to suggest that someone do something sane is abnormal and therefore viewed as 'insane'. The irony is delicious...
By all means ignore what I have to say. According to clinical research by a wide ranging variety of psych researchers, around 85% of adults in the USA (and John Bradshaw, an eminent practitioner, author and researcher, believes that more like 90% in Europe) are dysfunctional emotionally to a degree which negatively impacts on their lives and those around them. Thus it is 'normal' to be a bit nuts, in layman's terms - but not "a bit nuts" as in "I like to party and go off the deep end a bit", more like "a bit nuts" as in "even though I hate bullies, when I'm pissed off I treat anyone who cannot complain, or loved ones whom I subconsciously know will not complain much, harshly."
The problem then is that to suggest that someone do something sane is abnormal and therefore viewed as 'insane'. The irony is delicious...
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