Finius
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- Jan 24, 2011
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- #281
Ah, shyness, hello my old enemy.
I was very shy for a long while, so much so that people thought I'd got some deep terrible secret or some rubbish like that, but then one day, I woke up.
I realised that I'm so damned awesome, that actually, by being too shy to make friends, I was doing a great wrong, cause people NEED Finius in their lives. The fact of the matter is, that I actually am amazing. I'm good looking, intelligent, funny, charismatic and generally about as close to James Bond as a realistic male can get, and that, in effect, is being modest.
I'm not even being silly with you here, take a look at yourself without the usual bias and all that ridiculous notion of modesty where you have to pretend you're crap so people don't think you're annoying, would you want to be friends with you? I'd bloody love to be friends with me, it doesn't matter the qualities you have, they're still qualities and they're silly in demand, so here's my official advice, for reals, on a serious topic (say whuuuuuuu?).
The best way to overcome shyness is to do the above. Take a good damned look at yourself. If you can't name a dozen things about you and your personality that are desirable, then you're a tree, an honest to god tree, oak, willow, birch, your choice.
Don't lie to me, trees don't have opposable thumbs or fingers so couldn't operate a computer to reply to this post, so no, you're not a tree.
Maybe you lack some features you'd like, maybe you have some you don't play on enough, the point is, whatever, you have some pretty awesome features, and by connection, are pretty awesome. People who are awesome, are universally wanted. Always remember that.
In terms of practical advice, I just learned to talk to people, anyone, about anything.
Example, last week I'm in a club, some girl's stood next to me, she's been waiting for her drink since I got to the bar and I get mine first, despite her having ordered. She's not dont anything to acknowledge me, at all, but out the blue I just say to her "Service here's pretty hit and miss isn't it", from that, we got talking, exchanged numbers, we've hung out a bit and we're slowly becoming friends. Every situation where people AREN'T talking, they could be.
I was very shy for a long while, so much so that people thought I'd got some deep terrible secret or some rubbish like that, but then one day, I woke up.
I realised that I'm so damned awesome, that actually, by being too shy to make friends, I was doing a great wrong, cause people NEED Finius in their lives. The fact of the matter is, that I actually am amazing. I'm good looking, intelligent, funny, charismatic and generally about as close to James Bond as a realistic male can get, and that, in effect, is being modest.
I'm not even being silly with you here, take a look at yourself without the usual bias and all that ridiculous notion of modesty where you have to pretend you're crap so people don't think you're annoying, would you want to be friends with you? I'd bloody love to be friends with me, it doesn't matter the qualities you have, they're still qualities and they're silly in demand, so here's my official advice, for reals, on a serious topic (say whuuuuuuu?).
The best way to overcome shyness is to do the above. Take a good damned look at yourself. If you can't name a dozen things about you and your personality that are desirable, then you're a tree, an honest to god tree, oak, willow, birch, your choice.
Don't lie to me, trees don't have opposable thumbs or fingers so couldn't operate a computer to reply to this post, so no, you're not a tree.
Maybe you lack some features you'd like, maybe you have some you don't play on enough, the point is, whatever, you have some pretty awesome features, and by connection, are pretty awesome. People who are awesome, are universally wanted. Always remember that.
In terms of practical advice, I just learned to talk to people, anyone, about anything.
Example, last week I'm in a club, some girl's stood next to me, she's been waiting for her drink since I got to the bar and I get mine first, despite her having ordered. She's not dont anything to acknowledge me, at all, but out the blue I just say to her "Service here's pretty hit and miss isn't it", from that, we got talking, exchanged numbers, we've hung out a bit and we're slowly becoming friends. Every situation where people AREN'T talking, they could be.
