I'd like to think I've got a good enough gauge of you both over my time on here to know there was no malice behind it, just felt like I needed to call out that it didn't feel appropriate. I'd hate for the contents of some of those messages be folks from LGBTQ+ communities first (and lasting) impression of how inclusive this forum is.
The fella throwing 'fags' around as an insult though? Yeah, long walk, short cliff.