200% agree on vice, though at a push molegrips holding them, taped to bench
ANYTHING - just to free up a hand
I use a bit of flux and scratch/key the surface with a pointy file or something, just to ensure it sticks like shit to a blanket
As Luke showed, solder the connectors as a pair, saves the contacts going skewed under a bit of heat
(have to go some on deans but tiny bespoke connectors, like old keyboard AT/PS2 connectors those pins soon melted outta shape, so using the pair: male/female helped keep then in line during soldering)
Also use good solder, and the correct/iron heat for it
using cheapo poundland solder or stuff for plumbing like 500 degrees solder melt with a 10w iron is not gonna work out well
a great big 50w iron and chisel tip for switch contacts is not wise either
a 20w~25w with a tiny flat or medium pointed tip will do both fine stuff like mosfet/switch contacts & deans
A lot of agro is down to shit solder/wrong choice of solder/iron/tip/power
rest is refining your technique, vice, not cutting two lipo wires at one - BOOOM etc....
and a bit of practice - that's all
Once the deans is firmly held in vice/taped down
tin the deans & wire,
you got a hand free to hold wire then just melt the two together
pressing down on iron a little, away with iron, hold wire in place
I previously had XT60s on my guns, and they were a dream to solder with their nice socket. Swapping to deans just because I don't want double standards..
Colophony is dirt cheap for a tin, like £2 a tin on ebay. It makes any soldering job 100% easier. It's a glass like resin, If you want a liquid type dissolve a chunk in some isopropanol. If you use it in solid for you melt it with the iron then let it flow off the iron onto the bits you want to solder.
You get faster heat transfer, and the solder just wets out instantly. Seriously if you hate soldering it'll make your life so much easier.
You don't need to clean afterwards, but if you want things perfect just a little isopropanol will remove any leftovers.
Dunno whether this was just my mindset or not but I had huge issues soldering a "cheap" pack of Deans I got from eBay. When I saw the light and bought better quality connectors they seemed to solder a lot better.